How I Faced Fear On Our Road Trip

A few weeks ago we set out on a family road trip and I ended up facing my worst fear.  

My family and I live in Colorado and the moment we have an opportunity to explore this state we do!  We hope in the car and off we go!  

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This road trip was a bit different as we had a destination to Black Canyon of the Gunnison.  

What we didn't have was a plan of what to do in between the time we left our home till we got to our destination.  I think that was the most fun.  

We ended up driving from Denver all the way East to Grand Junction.  

I pulled out my most favorite app: Maps and started looking for fun things to do along the way.

Our first stop was Doc Holliday's gravesite in Glenwood Springs.  It was a great little hike all the way up the mountain to the grave site.  

Then we were off to Grand Junction.  The scenery was so beautiful  =

 Again, I pulled out my favorite app, Maps on my phone.

I found something that was calling to me,  Colorado National Monument Park in Fruita, CO.  The website images were breathtaking.  So we decided to go.

We got to the National Park and started driving up this beautiful windy road.  I was riding in the passenger seat and at some point we were winding around, I looked out the window and froze.  We were literally driving right on the side of the cliff.  

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Thankful that my husband, who was driving is a great driver and not afraid of heights like I AM.

I don't really know where I got this fear from but as I got older and became a mom, this fear of falling or slipping and falling from extreme heights has set into my body.

As we continue the drive along the edge of the cliffs, I was gripping the grab handles of the car for dear life and leaning in the opposite direction.  My breath got extremely heavy and I was getting really hot.  

It is amazing how we react to situations, even when we are clearly very safe.  I started to look at this fear in a different way, when my husband said to me, "What is going to happen?  If you fall, you die."  I know, pretty blunt but he was right.  

I realized that my mind followed by my body, goes straight to pain.  Feeling the impact as if someone or myself were to fall over the cliff.  I go straight to empathy, as if it is happening to me. 

Why do we do that? Why do we choose to feel into this situations that way?  

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So I thought,  OK.  We are here.  How can I allow myself to really enjoy this experience and release some of the fear?  My life wasn't in danger and this experience was something I was doing more to myself, than the other way around.  

I think it is important to listen to the fear and not ignore it.  Sometimes we feel fear because it is for our own safety.  If that is the case, then you need to follow that instinct and respond accordingly.  Listening to fear is the key to understanding it and doing what is appropriate.

In my experience, I was safe and creating a lot of unnecessary fear through my mind.   

My next thought was I need some energy tools to help me feel grounded and bring me back to the present moment.    

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I opened the bottle of cedarwood essential oil and took a few deep breathes in.  Allowing my body to calm down and relax.  I then put a few drops on my wrists and the back of my neck.  

Cedarwood essential oil is known for its rich hue and warm, woody scent that is grounding.  When used aromatically, it can relax and soothe the body and mind.  

I also brought with me a black tourmaline crystal.  One of my favorite grounding stones.  Its properties are that of a protection stone. Deflecting and transforming dense, heavy energies.  It also works to dispel fears and helps to balance your emotions.  I carried this stone with me in my pocket.  

 

What I noticed was that I found more ease as we drove alongside the cliffs.  I was able to feel safe and see the beauty in the environment and the experience.  

I also kept my distance when I felt the need to.  I was able to walk over a narrow cliff, without railings that stretched to a fenced in overhang.  I was very proud of myself! 

 

The next day we went to the Black Canyons of the Gunnison, which wasn't much different than our trip to the Colorado National Monument Park.  High canyons with large drop offs!  We enjoyed the views and the experience very much.

 
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Overall, if you are faced with fear.  Listen to it.  Take the appropriate action, if you need to get away or determine if you can move past it.  The more you listen from within and move past the mental fear, the more you gain trust with yourself and are able to truly experience your life.  

I would love to hear from you.  Have you experienced fear like I have and how were you able to move through it?